– The “fixer” is wanting to do just about anything to simply help the “fixee”. The fixee becomes determined by the fixer to solve their dilemmas.
– The fixee does not put work into increasing on their own, on their own. They could make short-term changes but will return right straight back. They feel insecure as a result of it. They feel more serious about by by themselves and away from defensiveness may blame the fixer with their struggles that are continued.
– The fixer gets frustrated in the not enough progress simply because they worry. They might have the fixee is not as committed to their very own enhancement in order to find that to be selfish. The fixer seems unappreciated and hurt being alone setting up work to get blamed for wanting to help. This all builds resentment which they sign up for in the fixee.
– This cycle of insecurity, resentment, attacking, and not enough modification continues. Either both ongoing parties remain miserable or some body fundamentally actually leaves.
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